Mental Health

My Struggle with Mental Health

Mental health is something we don’t talk about much in Nigeria. Now that the lockdown is taken a toll, there is the need to remove the stigma surrounding mental health so that those who need help can get it.

In secondary school, I learned about the power of the mind to make a person fall sick. I have been struggling with depression for 5 years. On April 14th, it got to a low point where my emotions could not be kept in. I would release them on the web.

The lockdown had been extended, my neighbour’s generator was blaring day and night, I had severe Malaria and Typhoid Fever. The entire cocktail made me want to let go.

There was no suicide attempt. However, I too am shocked by the things I wrote. Social media would make the tweets go viral. Sadly, it wasn’t what I wanted to trend for.

Bad Governance will kill Everyone

I would become depressed in 2015 after an accident where I would learn how to walk again. I hid my depression from my family because I didn’t want to go on medication.

The entire accident could have been prevented by speed bumps on the road. Ironic, that you could live you life minding your business and nearly die because someone didn’t do their job.

Breakdown in a Lockdown

If the goal of the lockdown was to increase despair among Nigerian youths, it was a resounding success.

Today, I am like Rocky in Creed I. I have lost my drive to contend. If something goes wrong at this point, I won’t be fixing it.

I didn’t have the heart to kill myself and that was why my thoughts landed on Twitter. It doesn’t mean that I am happy with things the way they are.

The next day, I would have a breakdown and land in hospital. Thus beginning a new phase of counselling and medication in my life.

I was triggered by the extension of the lockdown. If it had ended in the initial two weeks as planned, I would have been able to cope. I had managed my depression for 5 years. However, insomnia had set in and I could not get the medication I needed.

It’s All Down Everything

When it all fails, true leaders emerge

The country is a mess. We are approaching a recession. It would have been a time for superior leadership to rally the people, sadly they are hiding behind the pandemic.

I expect nothing from the current crop of politicians in power. They are meant to deceive the stupid and gullible.

Mending Fences

When a person becomes depressed, they no longer care about themselves much less their relationships with others.

I have missed weddings, insulted people and generally been uncouth. I regret my behaviour in the past and promise to do better.

Given my behaviour, I am surprised how people rallied on the web. Not that it would change my will to kill myself if I was suicidal but I am surprised that I meant anything to anyone after the damage I had done.

This is my public apology: “I am sorry if I have offended you in the last 5 years. I was battling a depression alone and didn’t know how to ask for help”.

Mentally Aware

I and my family remain forever grateful to the team at Mentally Aware. I don’t remember my about the events of the next day but my mum said that they handled my admission.

My family got refunded the amount we paid to the hospital. I was not admitted. Due to the lockdown my family was given injections and medication.


Today I am on medication for my depression. I also take Malaria medication once a month with the goal of clearing it from my system.

Counselling sessions have begun. I got a recommendation for a good Psychologist from Mentally Aware.

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Lockdown Chronicles

Lockdown Extended

Today is Easter Monday. It’s been 20 days since the lockdown by the Lagos state government. Then the Federal government added its own on Monday, 30th March by 11 pm. Now the lockdown has been extended by 2 weeks.

It now feels like a situation of war as Nigerians are hit by hunger, armed robbers and the Coronavirus. The Hungervirus is the scariest.

Lockdown Wahala
Nigerians are caught between hunger and the Coronavirus

After the 3 pandemics end, the nation goes on to face the issue of food security as it this is the planting season being spent indoors.

We are faced with a situation close to war as gangs have taken over some parts of Mainland Lagos.

Amidst this situation, we must survive and come out of this ready to rebuild this nation.

It would be a shame to waste crisis.

Take it Online


From next month a lot of Nigerians are going to find out that they are not middle class. They are poor. Some already know this. The lockdown is opening people’s eyes.

William Ukpe

My name is Ailende Truston Oiselenjakhian. I am Esan man from Lagos, Nigeria. As I write this there is a blackout at my family house where I am under lockdown due to the Coronavirus which is ravaging the world as we know it.

I have been on lockdown since March 24 when the current governor of Lagos state Governor Babajide Sanwo-Olu issued a lockdown in Lagos state. The Federal government would later declare its own lockdown on March 30th by 11pm.

So far, Lagosians have been locked in for 19 days. My hair and beard are overgrown since I finally have an excuse to grow a beard. I have never had that chance despite having some grey hairs on my head. As a teacher, I have always had to dress to impress parents. Now they don’t matter.

I started this series because of the quote by William Ukpe. If you are on Twitter, you should follow William Ukpe. All I will say about him is that he was in Liberia as a child during the Liberian Civil War.

Even if the lockdown ended on Tuesday, the decimation it has wrought to personal wealth would still be felt. Lives have already been ruined by it. People have become impoverished as a result of the lockdown.

When I saw that quote, I knew I had to help out in anyway I could. My first time out of seclusion was on April 10 when I would do a webinar with the BNUG Group.

So I am writing this series to teach people how to make money online using their talents.

A word of caution. Since April 10, I have noticed a surge in direct messages of various kinds across my social media platforms. As at today, my Facebook notifications are turned off.

The above image is from the Avengers Endgame movie when Tony Stark decides to come back into the fight. We all know he dies. For me, this is the moment when he dies.

Yes, I do allude that I am Tony Stark. Like him, at this point in my life, everyone I care about is safe and sound. I have no need to fight. So I am not doing this for you, my readers.

When my friend advised me, I taught about how I could do what Tony Stark did and still go home alive. My best option for this would be to give everyone the tools they need to build their own suit to fight their war and that is the aim of this series.

According to Praise George, the steps to writing a book are shown below:

How to Write Your Book
How to Write Your Book

Right now, I am on step 5. I cannot promise that a book will come out of this series. Knowing what I know about writing having written 5 books, I hesitate to promise a book.

I have created the book cover using Unsplash and the KDP Book Cover Creator. You can look at the book below:

Take it Online Book Cover
Take it Online Book Cover

My goal with this series is to Educate, Inspire and Empower you to make money online for yourself. Please don’t expect me to fight for you.

I am not doing this for you. My last government project showed me that Nigerians are a selfish and ungrateful people.

I am doing this because I am part of this world and I care about it. Seeing it go to shit bothers me.

I have had to take this road to get you to this point where I can teach you how to make money online because without the right mindset, your skillset or toolset won’t matter.

We all know people who are amazingly talented but can’t seem to go anywhere with their lives you might even be one of them. Without the right attitude, success is unattainable.

Making Money During This Lockdown in Nigeria Using Your Talents

I have been in the industry for over 10 years. In that time, I have read a lot of books. The best writing on this subject in my honest opinion is by Internet Truths. Please visit the site and sign up.

Like all good copywriters, he sells a training course at the end of the book. The extension of the lockdown has since affected that. I, however, recommend the content.

This is a good place to stop. I shall expand more on the topic as we go along.

With the extension of the lockdown indefinitely, crime will rise in the affected states.

My admonition to you is to Take Responsibility.

Lockdown Chronicles

Lagos Lockdown Day 11

Today marks the 11th Day of the Lagos Lockdown. For me it has been a time of emotional torture.

We didn’t have electricity for two days. The neighbors were all in a contest to outlast each others with their generators. My head got pounded for 2 days before the light came on.

This article covers the general position of most Nigerians on the Lagos Lockdown. Rather than continue staying at home, most of us want to take our chances with the virus.

Myself included. Everyday we stay at home, we get poorer. I am lucky that I can write for a living but the majority of people live from hand to mouth.

The so called handouts were shared to the “vulnerable”. How it is possible that their details are missing is somehow beyond me.

Thankfully, the reality of living in Nigeria is dawning on most Nigerians.

Lockdown Chronicles

Lagos Lockdown Day 10

Today marks Day 10 of the Lagos Lockdown. There has been no light all day but the useless NCDC has sent me like 2 SMS on the Coronavirus.

Frankly I no longer care about the Coronavirus. I no longer think there is a virus in Nigeria. I now suspect a plan to steal money.

The Coronavirus continues to threaten to tear the fabric of this world. Recently, the Australian Prime Minister threw Non-Australian citizens under the bus.

This just goes to show that real situations expose fake people.